Opportunities come in all sorts of guises

I find the Buddhist doctrine pretty comprehensive in its guidance for us poor mortals to achieve enlightenment.

There is a weak link however and its human nature.

Like dieting, you can buy the best book, DVD or even have the most fabulous fitness coach, or all three you wont loose weight if you eat too much, simple!

Am I on a determined and committed path to enlightenment? I would love to say “absolutely” but if I am honest, no I am not.  I wander on and off it, because it takes constant effort and conscious application. I don’t seem able to maintain either, consistently.

What jumps starts me back on track, is it a kind word, gentle encouragement, a motivational mentor? Perhaps, but as with dieting, self improvement, is not a passive activity. I need to put into practice all the advice I read. This week I have had cause to reflect about challenging incidents with people because what better way to practice than to be confronted with  difficult, irritating or upsetting confrontations  with a loved one or even a stranger.  Not that I seek them out you understand, this revelation has just helped me stop thinking about how these incidents affect me and look at it as a sign of suffering of others. Why are they so controlling, so angry, so critical etc etc.. What hurt are they dealing with.

My revelation is linked to the Buddhist doctrine and springs from its teaching that people who seem, unkind, unfriendly and test our patients are our teachers. I must commit to take the opportunity to listen carefully hear the fear and respond with kindness. This has potential for healing, but I cannot expect to see a result and feel gratitude. This is a benefit to me and I must be grateful to others, for this opportunity.  I know it’s not easy. No guarantees I will do well or maintain perspective, but I will try.

Alison x

PS I hope others can do the same for me x

PPS I start my diet tomorrow again LOL!