Has social networking given us a useful tool to help others
or is it just a modern way to be nosy?
After the second world war there was a lot of temporary housing,
”prefabs” which became permanent and lasted well into the 70s. As a young
couple my parents lived in one. Some of theses groups of little corrugated iron
bungalows were built in the strangest of places, away from existing streets or
bomb sites. One in particular was a settlement of twenty or so built on a large
traffic island in the middle of a small town, surrounded by traffic and shops;
it was a whorl of activity of coming and going.
I am not sure how people were allocated these homes if they
were neighbours moved en bloc or initially
strangers to each other. It didn’t take long, though for everyone’s routines to
be known to one another the walls were thin and the paths crisscrossed under
bedroom windows. The little gardens were usually kept tidy and colourful but
they too were small and there was nowhere to hide. Family life therefore was
very much exposed for all to witness, the highs and the lows. There was still a
mixture of cultural responses to “trouble”, some felt what went on was private
, but somehow disapproval of certain goings on hovered ever ready and acted as
a moderator in some cases and a safety network in others. Domestic violence is
a fairly new term in a historical sense but it is something which has been
around since the caveman. Tolerance of it and of child abuse has sensitised
somewhat in the last 30 years, but I think people always had a bottom line
which was not to be tolerated. Hitting children, quite harshly was acceptable,
then, after all. However in this tight,
cheek by jowl existence there was something that united them and it became a
practise as concern spread they would react spontaneously to a new event to
protect a vulnerable member of the neighbourhood
, a child, a wife an elderly man, perhaps. Sometimes it involved nothing more
than a crowd forming to oust the abuser once and for all and give a woman the
confidence to shout “and don’t come back” and everyone would know. Other times rightly
or wrongly more pressure was brought to bare to “reform” someone’s behaviour.
Crowds forming at incidents were common, people had no
embarrassment of being right there in the thick of it and throwing in the odd challenging
remark, buoyed by the presence of their neighbours. Then it seem to peter out
and net curtain twitching was all we could muster and a surreptitious call to
the authorities, in some ways this “nosy” behaviour became despised. We all
moved into more insular lives, more cars, bigger shops, higher garden fences.
We stopped looking and we stopped caring and it became somebody else’s
responsibility, to look out for others.
Now social networking has brought us a new opportunity to
spread the word when someone needs help and we have a tool we feel comfortable using
to bring pressure to bare. There are bad things about technology and there will
never be a replacement for a brave sole to step up and be counted and use their
own physicality to protect someone.
But we have entered a new era where each and everyone one of
us can make a difference and add our voices to others to raise the volume to be
heard. The following film is an example of how we can each be a voice for good. It is 30 mins long but it is so interesting and provoking,even if you don;t agree with this particular cause, you can see how each one of us can use technology for good.
